"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
What's Happening
You believe your child needs a dedicated 1:1 aide to access their education safely and effectively, but the school has denied the request.
Your Legal Rights
Under IDEA, if a 1:1 aide is necessary for a child to receive FAPE, the school must provide one. Cost is NOT a valid reason for denial.
- The school cannot deny a needed service due to cost.
- A 1:1 aide can be included in the IEP as a supplementary aid and service.
- The IEP team must base the decision on the child's individual needs, not district policy.
- You can provide supporting evidence from outside professionals.
What To Do Right Now
Gather evidence: Get letters from your child's therapists, doctors, or outside evaluators recommending a 1:1 aide.
Request an IEP meeting and present your case with data showing the child cannot access education without individual support.
If denied, request PWN explaining how FAPE will be provided without the aide.
File a state complaint or request due process if the denial puts your child at risk.
Don't Go Into This Blind
Before you send a letter or file a complaint, start with the written IEP. The audit can flag documented gaps, weak language, and sections that may deserve a written question or closer professional review.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can the school say a 1:1 aide is 'too restrictive'?
Can the school say it's too expensive?
Can I request a specific person as the aide?
Review the document before you escalate
Upload your IEP to identify written sections that may need clarification, correction, or professional review.
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