
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
What's Happening
Your child is having behavioral challenges at school—meltdowns, elopement, aggression, or refusal. Instead of investigating the root cause with an FBA, the school is punishing the behavior.
Your Legal Rights
Under IDEA, when behavior impedes learning, the IEP team must consider positive behavioral interventions. An FBA is the foundation for any effective behavior plan.
- IDEA requires the IEP team to consider behavioral interventions when behavior impedes learning.
- You can request an FBA at any time in writing.
- After 10 days of suspension, the school is required to conduct an FBA if one hasn't been done.
- A Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP) must be based on the findings of the FBA.
What To Do Right Now
Submit a written request for an FBA: 'I am requesting a Functional Behavior Assessment for [child] under IDEA.'
If the school refuses, request PWN explaining their refusal.
Request an IEP meeting to discuss behavioral concerns and include the FBA request on the agenda.
If the concern remains unresolved, review state complaint, mediation, due process, and independent evaluation options with a qualified professional.
Don't Go Into This Blind
Before you send a letter or file a complaint, start with the written IEP. The audit can flag documented gaps, weak language, and sections that may deserve a written question or closer professional review.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Review the document before you escalate
Upload your IEP to identify written sections that may need clarification, correction, or professional review.
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