The Problem With Cookie-Cutter IEP Goals
Every year, millions of IEP goals get copy-pasted from goal banks just like this one. The school fills in your child's name, slaps on "80% accuracy in 4 out of 5 trials," and calls it individualized. It's not.
Under IDEA §300.320(a)(2), every goal must be based on your child's present levels of academic achievement and functional performance — their unique strengths, their specific barriers, their actual evaluation data. Not a template.
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this goal bank because I was tired of seeing parents bullied into accepting generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The goals below aren't just random suggestions—they are the exact same forensically sound goals I fight for in meetings every day. Use them to demand better for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
How Autism Spectrum Disorder Affects Social Emotional Learning at the Early Elementary (PreK–2nd Grade) Level
At this stage, children are building the foundational skills they'll use for the rest of their education. IEP goals should focus on concrete, observable behaviors using hands-on materials, visual supports, and structured routines. It's normal for young learners to need more adult support — the key is systematically fading that support as skills develop.
The Specific Barrier
Social-emotional learning is a core challenge area for students with autism. Difficulty reading facial expressions, understanding unwritten social rules, managing sensory overload in social situations, and recognizing how their behavior affects others creates daily barriers to social participation and emotional regulation.
Building on Your Child's Strengths
Many students with ASD respond well to explicit social skills instruction using scripts, video modeling, and social stories. They often develop strong friendships when provided with structured social opportunities rather than unstructured settings.
What Goals Should Actually Address
Identifying emotions in self and others using visual supports, using a pre-taught coping strategy during sensory or emotional overload, and initiating and maintaining reciprocal social interactions in structured settings.
⚡ But here's the thing: The information above is general. Your child isn't a category — they're an individual with specific evaluation data, specific classroom challenges, and specific strengths that no goal bank can capture. That's why we built a tool that analyzes your child's actual IEP.
Get your child's IEP reviewed freeRed Flags: Your Child's Social Emotional Learning Goals May Be Generic If...
The goal says "80% accuracy in 4 out of 5 trials"
This is the #1 sign of a copy-paste goal. Real criteria should match your child's baseline data, not a boilerplate number.
✕Goals that say 'will improve' without a specific, measurable target
💬 What to say in the meeting:
"Ask: 'Improve from what baseline to what target? How will you measure this? What does progress look like in data?' Every goal needs a starting point and an endpoint."
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Run a free audit✕No baseline data — if they can't tell you where your child is NOW, the goal is meaningless
💬 What to say in the meeting:
"Say: 'Before we set a target, I need to see the current performance data. What assessment was used to determine the present level for this goal?'"
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Run a free audit✕Using the same goals as last year with no change in supports despite lack of progress
💬 What to say in the meeting:
"Ask: 'If this goal wasn't met last year, what specific instructional changes are being made this year? Repeating the same approach and expecting a different result isn't a plan.'"
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Run a free audit✕Goals that are too easy or already mastered — often a sign the school wants to show 'progress' without doing the work
💬 What to say in the meeting:
"Say: 'This goal seems below my child's current level. Can you show me the data that supports this as an appropriate target? I'd like to see goals that promote actual growth.'"
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Run a free auditAdvocate Tip for Early Elementary (PreK–2nd Grade) Parents
Don't let the school tell you 'they'll grow out of it.' Early intervention is the single most effective predictor of long-term success. If your child is struggling now, push for intensive, evidence-based support — not a 'wait and see' approach.
What Social Emotional Learning Goal Patterns Look Like at This Level
These are example patterns to help you understand what the school should be writing — not goals to copy. Your child's goals must be built from their evaluation data.
⚠️ These are not your child's goals. Every child with Autism Spectrum Disorder is different. A goal that's right for one Kindergarten student may be completely wrong for another. Use these to understand the structure of a good goal — then make sure your child's IEP team writes goals tied to their specific present levels.
- Example Pattern 1
Identify and label basic emotions (happy, sad, angry, scared) in self using a visual feelings chart
What a school might write: "The student will identify and label basic emotions (happy, sad, angry, scared) in self using a visual feelings chart with 80% accuracy in 4/5 trials."
What your advocate should ask: "What's the baseline? Where is identify and label documented in the present levels? How was 80% chosen as the target?"
- Example Pattern 2
Use a calming strategy (deep breaths, counting to 5, squeezing a stress ball) when upset with adult prompting
What a school might write: "The student will use a calming strategy (deep breaths, counting to 5, squeezing a stress ball) when upset with adult prompting with 80% accuracy in 4/5 trials."
What your advocate should ask: "What's the baseline? Where is use a calming documented in the present levels? How was 80% chosen as the target?"
- Example Pattern 3
Take turns during a structured game or activity with one peer
What a school might write: "The student will take turns during a structured game or activity with one peer with 80% accuracy in 4/5 trials."
What your advocate should ask: "What's the baseline? Where is take turns during documented in the present levels? How was 80% chosen as the target?"
- Example Pattern 4
Follow two-step classroom routines (e.g., hang up backpack, then sit at circle) independently
What a school might write: "The student will follow two-step classroom routines (e.g., hang up backpack, then sit at circle) independently with 80% accuracy in 4/5 trials."
What your advocate should ask: "What's the baseline? Where is follow two-step classroom documented in the present levels? How was 80% chosen as the target?"
- Example Pattern 5
Use words instead of physical actions (hitting, grabbing) to express a want or need
What a school might write: "The student will use words instead of physical actions (hitting, grabbing) to express a want or need with 80% accuracy in 4/5 trials."
What your advocate should ask: "What's the baseline? Where is use words instead documented in the present levels? How was 80% chosen as the target?"
5 more goal patterns are available for this combination. But remember — the right number of goals for your child depends on their evaluation, not on how many a goal bank lists.
Show More Goal Patterns
- Pattern 6
Greet a familiar adult or peer by name with a wave, verbal greeting, or appropriate gesture
- Pattern 7
Accept 'no' or a change in plans with no more than one verbal protest before moving on
- Pattern 8
Participate in a small-group activity for at least 10 minutes without needing to leave the area
- Pattern 9
Identify one personal strength and one thing that is hard ('I'm good at building, writing is hard for me')
- Pattern 10
Wait for a desired item or activity for up to 2 minutes using a visual timer
The Real Question Isn't "What Goals Should I Copy?"
It's: "Are the goals already in my child's IEP actually individualized — or did the school copy them from a bank just like this one?"
I check every goal in your child's IEP against federal standards. I catch the copy-paste goals, the missing present levels, the goals with no real criteria — all the things a goal bank can't tell you.
Audit Your Child's IEP — FreeAccommodations to Discuss With Your IEP Team
These are commonly considered for students with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Like goals, accommodations must be individualized — not selected from a checklist.
Visual schedules and task checklists
💬 How to request this in the meeting:
"I'd like the IEP to include a visual schedule that's reviewed with my child at the start of each day, and a task checklist for multi-step assignments. Can we specify who will prepare these and how they'll be updated?"
🛡️ If the school pushes back:
Visual supports are an evidence-based practice endorsed by the National Professional Development Center on ASD. If the school says they 'don't have time' to create them, ask for that refusal in a Prior Written Notice (PWN).
Sensory breaks tailored to individual needs
💬 How to request this in the meeting:
"My child needs scheduled sensory breaks — not just after a meltdown has already started. Can we include 10-minute breaks every 45 minutes, with access to a sensory kit, as a proactive accommodation?"
🛡️ If the school pushes back:
If the school only offers reactive breaks (after crisis), point out that proactive sensory breaks are recommended by AOTA and reduce overall disruption. Request an Occupational Therapy evaluation if one hasn't been done.
Preferential seating away from sensory distractions
💬 How to request this in the meeting:
"Can we specify seating away from the door, windows, and fluorescent light fixtures that flicker? My child's sensory profile shows sensitivity to visual and auditory stimuli."
🛡️ If the school pushes back:
This is a low-cost, no-burden accommodation. If denied, ask: 'What alternative are you proposing to address the documented sensory sensitivities in the evaluation?'
Extended time for processing verbal information
💬 How to request this in the meeting:
"I'm requesting extended processing time — specifically, waiting at least 10 seconds after asking a question before expecting a response, and repeating directions once before assuming non-compliance."
🛡️ If the school pushes back:
Processing speed is a documented deficit in many students with ASD. If the school resists, reference the evaluation data showing processing speed scores.
These scripts are general examples. The most effective meeting language references your child's specific evaluation data and classroom observations. Our action plan generates personalized scripts based on your child's actual IEP.
Get personalized meeting scriptsWhat To Do Right Now
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Pull out your child's current IEP
Find the document the school gave you. Look for the section called 'Measurable Annual Goals.'
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Find the Social Emotional Learning goals
Look for goals that specifically address social emotional learning. Does the goal reference YOUR child's evaluation data?
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Check for baseline data
Every goal must state where your child IS right now. If there's no number or specific skill level, the goal can't be measured.
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Look for red flags
Compare the goals to the red flags listed above. If you see '80% accuracy in 4 out of 5 trials' or goals that sound like they could apply to any student, flag it.
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