
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
⚠️ Before you send anything: Ground the request in the written record. Upload your IEP first for a free audit to identify document sections worth referencing.
Legal Basis
34 CFR §300.502 — Parents have the right to an IEE at public expense if they disagree with the school's evaluation.
The Letter Template
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Dear [Special Education Director], I am writing to formally request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) at public expense for my child, [Child's Full Name], under 34 CFR §300.502. I disagree with the school's evaluation dated [Date of Evaluation] in the area(s) of [e.g., psychological, educational, speech-language, occupational therapy]. I understand that the school district must either: 1. Fund the IEE at public expense, OR 2. File for a due process hearing to demonstrate that its own evaluation is appropriate. Please provide me with the district's criteria for IEEs, including any requirements for evaluator qualifications and geographic boundaries. I look forward to your response without unnecessary delay. Sincerely, [Your Name] [Date]
Pro Tips for Using This Letter
You do NOT have to explain why you disagree — just state that you disagree.
The school must either pay or file due process — they cannot simply deny.
You are generally not limited to the school's list of evaluators.
Submit this as soon as possible after receiving the school's evaluation.
What Happens After You Send This Letter
Save a copy of the letter and the delivery confirmation (email receipt or certified mail tracking). This is your evidence trail.
Mark your calendar for the response timeline that applies to this request in your state. If you do not hear back, send a written follow-up referencing the original date.
If they schedule a meeting in response, prepare just like you would for any IEP meeting. Bring a support person and ask for time to review anything you do not understand.
If they refuse or propose a change covered by Prior Written Notice, ask for the notice in writing so the decision and reasons are documented.
Upload your IEP for a free audit before the meeting. The review can flag written gaps and weak language worth discussing.
Not Sure What to Ask For?
A letter is stronger when it points to the written record. Upload your IEP to flag document sections worth referencing and questions worth raising.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I email this letter or send it as certified mail?
What if the school doesn't respond to my letter?
Can the school retaliate against my child for sending this letter?
Do I need a lawyer to send this letter?
Audit your IEP before sending this letter
Find documented concerns first, then reference the relevant sections in your letter.
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