
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
What's Happening
Your child didn't meet their IEP goal. Instead of investigating why and increasing services, the school's solution is to make the goal easier.
Your Legal Rights
Under IDEA, when a student fails to make adequate progress, the IEP team must consider increasing services or changing methodology—not simply lowering expectations.
- The IEP team must address lack of progress by revising the program, not just the goal.
- You have the right to an explanation of why progress wasn't made and what changes will be implemented.
- You can request additional evaluations to determine if the current program is appropriate.
- You can file a complaint if the school is systematically lowering expectations.
What To Do Right Now
Compare the old goals with the proposed new ones. If the new goal is easier, flag it.
Ask: 'My child didn't meet this goal. What instructional changes are you making to the program?'
Request progress monitoring data from the current year to see if the intervention methodology is working.
If the school insists on lowering goals, refuse to sign and request a PWN.
Don't Go Into This Blind
Before you send a letter or file a complaint, start with the written IEP. The audit can flag documented gaps, weak language, and sections that may deserve a written question or closer professional review.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it ever appropriate to lower a goal?
What should happen when a goal isn't met?
Can I bring my own data to the meeting?
Review the document before you escalate
Upload your IEP to identify written sections that may need clarification, correction, or professional review.
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